So nice that you were able to see a pomeranian dog for the first time !! I didnāt grow up with any pets, so I totally understand only having had an appreciation for the species from afar. My fictional pomerainian of choice has to be Pom from Pom Gets Wifi
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been dealing with some health stuff lately but decided to write about the fosstodon drama instead and how moderating isnāt a burden:
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Havenāt heard of that one before, but I love to see more fictional Pomeranians! 
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Been awhileā¦
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I may or may not now own a LOT of DIY, self-help zines. LOL, Iām not sure whether I should thank you or curse you for that link but in the meantime Iām going to read up on holding illicit dance parties and building geodesic domes. Maybe I can have a party in the dome.
Scavengerās Reign was so good! If you liked the short then definitely give the whole series a try.
Going back to working my way through the rest of your blog links.
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I wrote a short history lesson about where exactly the concept of āAd Supported Contentā came from.
TL;DR Markets meet radio-waves.
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more emotions
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If losing my husband taught me anything, itās that one should never confuse longevity with a job well done. Love is worth it, no matter the time frame.
That said, Iām also pulling for the best possible outcome here. <3
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Iāve been keeping this in the drafts for quite some time, trying to organize my thoughts about my gender identity now. Itās also technically a part two to my blog What is Masculinity post years back. But it has an extended section about reflecting on my past experiences, and finding some happiness in calling myself a trans man.
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I see you took to heart some of what I had said about manhood and masculinity being something you may claim for yourself as a sovereign human being, and thus define for yourself.
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Another side note: Thereās a weird sense of misandry in general LGBT+ spaces that make me feel unsafe as someone who is masculine.
Iām a straight/cis man, so I donāt really have a dog in this fight. But it has always seemed strange the tendancy for āprogressiveā spaces to host events for āWomen and Non-binaryā or āWomen and transā folk only (maybe this is an Australian lefty thing? Idk)
But it always seems to me like they are suggesting that non-binary folk are just a different kind of woman basically. Like an institutionalization of when some women say their gay man friend is āone of the girlsā.
Like I said, Iām not any of the affected identities, so I donāt really have any ārightā to an opinion. But it has always smelled funny to me.
EDIT: Just realised I read and replied to the old blog not the new one.
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Itās all good, this is still a good response to the old blog post anyways.
This is exactly how I feel and why I feel very uncomfortable towards LGBTQ+ spaces that are supposed to be inclusive towards everyone. There is definitely a problem in regards to implying non-binary people are "women-lite 
" when they do not conform to the gender binary. But Iām not non-binary myself, so I would rather someone who identifies with the label talk about it in greater detail.
But what I can speak about, as a trans man, is that it indeed feels like men or masculine leaning people are being considered āone of the girlsā just because they donāt conform to the toxic cisheteronormative expectation of masculinity. This implies that masculinity itself is evil, when it really is more grey that it appears. While yes, women are the most oppressed in our patriarchal society today, we shouldnāt be demonizing masculinity in order to argue for fairer treatment for women and fem-leaning people.
Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity are two sides of the same coin. They are an ideology based on outdated gender norms that serve to alienate each other, scrubbing individuals of their nuance and agency.
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Post 999 on my blogā¦
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I wonder if this would be a good point for a thread split off, or how the Cafe usually handles topic diversions like this. That being said, to touch on the point briefly- (as someone who is nonbinary) often my experience with these events has been that they aim to provide support in response to gendered violence (counselling and peer support groups, self defence training, awareness of safety programs on campus like security chaperones.) Sometimes Iāve seen them marketed as being for āmarginalized identitiesā or āvulnerable populationsā as well.
For social contexts, it gets a bit dicier- but it at least made sense to me when framed in this way. It made sense to me as someone who encounters a great deal of friction when interfacing with various institutions, especially medical- where my gender identity will not be respected, and thus I have to adjust to moving through it as being perceived as a woman.
The āwoman-liteā handling of some nonbinary people is problematic, but there is, to some extent, reasonable grounds to group people together who might benefit from learning about things like resources to help with navigating medicalized misogyny, (especially with regards to autonomy in reproductive care and contraception or sterilization), such as lists of providers who do not push for the involvement/signature of a husband or require X amount of kids as a āsoftā requirement for some procedures.
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My thing about this is why just women and nonbinary people? Why exclude trans men from resources for uterine based reproductive care?
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Iāve most commonly seen such groups as being for āwomen and trans people,ā so in that case I presume it includes trans men. There is a lack of outreach and support for trans men in that regard though, I agree, and they should similarly have access to address their healthcare needs. Language gets sticky when people try to be inclusive without necessarily understanding how to best broach diverse populationsā sometimes overlapping and sometimes disparate needs.
Transparency about what these groups actually entail to allow people to self determine if itās relevant to them is a good start- like workshops held on campus informing people about how to get their hormonal contraceptives covered under the student insurance, which had a descriptive blurb to let people decide if itād be pertinent to them (something Iād brought up to their organizer at the time when they were chewing on what language to use. They settled on āwomen and trans peopleā and had information on what the talks would be about: different hormonal options, efficacy, how to get insurance to cover it, etc.)
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Oooh yes women and trans people is definitely a better phrasing (unfortunately every phrase will probably have its issues, but this is better). And I definately agree about the transparency! Of course a succinct title/name is important but describing what something is for is more helpful than assuming who itās for
Since I have helped steer the train off itās tracks, Iād just like to say I really appreciate this community for being open to friendly conversation about sometimes testy topics!
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Really appreciating your blog and stumbled into that Microcosm bundle, so good.
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Thanks much! glad you are enjoying the bundle.
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short post just to post something
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