Perhaps I don’t want to feel “sexy”, or be romantic. 
That being said, the article does make a few valid points, especially the dangers of convenience and instantaneous access to everything.
the Easy things are not desirable or rewarding section is the one I found the most interesting.
This sounds like trend-chasing nonsense to me. I know it’s fashionable to blame smartphones for every possible social ill, but as a man I have never felt sexy, and I was a teenager and twentysomething before smartphones became a thing.
I personally think it’s not a smartphone issue per se but rather what the smartphone enables and that is constant access to social media which is the primary cause of a lot of issues.
But I do think smartphones have done their fair share of harm when it comes to a declining attention span but again, it’s not entirely fault of the smartphone as an object.
Some of us are perfectly capable of feeling like unsexy blobs of shit without crippling social media addictions, thank you.
More seriously I think she has some really good points here, but she is also reaching in places, comparison is the thief of joy, better is the enemy of good enough: both have been so forever.
Nothing about any of this is unique, it’s just stupider, louder and faster, like everything else in the modern world.
This came from the same mind that gifted us the excellent why Tony Soprano is hot piece, which if you haven’t read you should.
I would value this woman’s thoughts on pornography and false fulfillment if they were given their own piece rather than just being an aside in here.
Very much agree on this and I think this is also a big part of the problem. The speed and scale is a big issue and I don’t think our brains are well equipped to deal with that
Fun short read imo. I definitely see her point, skipped nuance aside. Our everyday digital devices are all rather numbing when you are, at the end of the day, still the kind of animal to perceive the world around you through scent and tactile sensations, and be excited by randomness and unpredictability, among other things. Leaves you wishing for more discussion about the new need for physical grounding that is specifically created by the internet, and for that discussion to hopefully be sex-positive.
Thanks for the share, some interesting points here. I’ve actually gotten sexier as I’ve gotten older and felt more and more sexy 
, completely unrelated to my phone use – updating because I thought more about this and it’s actually because of my phone use, seeing more bodies like mine attached to confident people who look fucking amazing. it’s because of the internet that I figured out who I am and feel comfortable in my own body. but also, when I see articles that say stuff like “no one with a phone can escape XYZ” it really makes me wonder how they use their phone. It’s just a tool and we all use it differently. So perhaps this is why I have retained and grown in my sexiness?
I also disagree with the generalization that smartphone use has pulled us further apart rather than bringing us together. I think it does both pretty well, not one better than the other, but in different ways. Technology connects us and pulls us apart, it always has. That has nothing to do with phones. I think this article ignores a lot of human history with new technology or ways of learning, some of these are the same complaints people had about newspapers and novels (though I can’t say whether anyone wrote an article about newspapers taking away our sexiness).
However I do completely agree on the points about convenience/desire. I think inconvenience keeps us connected to ourselves, or at least it keeps me connected to myself. nothing like struggling to make you feel more human, and there’s absolutely nothing like sharing your struggles with somebody else and then they share their struggles and you get to walk away from that conversation feeling less alone. but that’s also something that I do through chat with international friends. you don’t have to be face-to-face to have those connections.