Iâm only a bit older than your coworker and I can assure you that theyâve known a different world, like I did. More likely, theyâre simply part of the cross-generational group of people who do enjoy the surface benefits of these things without questioning the implications.
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This is a great take, and something I find myself thinking/talking about often. It is very tempting to try to sort people into good and bad and pick sidesâI think it appeals to the lizard brain instinct to have a quick âfriend or foe heuristicâ so we donât get eaten by the wolf while we dither on whether itâs dangerousâbut out here in cold, hard real life we often find ourselves playing the victim sometimes and the aggressor at others.
Like, in my case, I know that there are some people at my work who think I am an asshole, perfectionist, and/or egotist because I hold others to high standards, and I also know that I have encountered bosses whose perfectionism and/or high standards verged into narcissism, but I canât sit around doubting myself every time I have legitimate criticism for someone whose job it is for me to supervise and trainâso I try to be as diplomatic as I can while doing right by the client. I employ the âI know this may come across as asshole behaviorâ trick often, too, and it seems to work, but ultimately how much can you do to insulate someone when time and time again you have to deliver them negative feedback because they really are just not getting itâŚ
Similarly: Some people just tick me off for no reason, probably because they are better than me or intimidate me or get more recognition me or whatever, and I often fall into the mental trap of trying to find fault with themâsomething kind fucked up they said or whateverâso that I can console myself with a vacuous moral high ground.
Anyway, I think itâs funny to read the title of your blog post as the answer to the title of this recent post of mine:
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Right. I donât see this âI like the adsâ pattern as a generational thing. Iâm not even sure anymore if itâs a media literacy issue that I can dismiss as people not having thought through the privacy implications. I think itâs almost just a matter of temperament (or perhaps upbringing)âthere are people in the world who are so deeply immersed in purity culture or so lacking in self awareness that âI donât care about privacy bc I have nothing to hideâ is just the literal, factual truth about their mental state.
Un5tunately caching is often a harder programming problem than it may seem on the surface⌠Caching is easy for gemini because itâs literally just delivering static blobs of text, but with dynamic content itâs not always obvious which part can be cached and which part will change, etc⌠There is also the argument to be made (although I find it unconvincing) that people have a ârightâ to post things on the internet and then take them down or edit them later, and by caching you are sort of undermining this right. In some internet circles it is common to install a JS âclicktrapâ that prevents people from copy/pasting text and images that you post (although these are easily circumvented).
To clarify, now that I think back on the conversation, we were discussing not just advertising, but all the tracking and surveillance stuff that gets downloaded from so many sites.
I agree - it is likely not a generational thing. I think a lot of people just donât care.
A little annoying trolling from meâŚbut I do in fact believe this stuffâŚ
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I believe it too. We shouldnât be killing ourselves to earn a living. Bread and roses are every human beingâs rightful due.
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Iâm with you. The more I garden, the more I realize nature is generous*; itâs humans who are stingy, greedy little shits.
*not to be confused with âkindâ
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Iâve been making miniature food again, and Iâve made a post about duping MGAâs Make It Minis with supplies I already have:
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I wrote about long covid and my current 4-month bout with non-allergic rhinitis and how (for me) they are rooted in trauma and a very powerful and incorrect response from my brain. I am moving away from identifying as someone who is fully recovered from long covid to someone who is still battling different physical manifestations of trauma in my body.
CW: murder and suicide (sorry!) and probably too long.
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Made an article with my thoughts about intellectual property:
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Several years ago, I spent three weeks in the Cleveland Clinicâs chronic pain rehab program. One of the most useful things they emphasized was âthe pain is real. It may not come from a source we can treat directly (i.e. with surgery, meds etc), but it is real.â
What youâre going through reminds me of that. Your symptoms are real, even if they arenât coming from a source you can throw meds at or get surgery for.
(fwiw, a LOT of chronic pain is driven at least partly by trauma, too. Working through mine has helped immensely.)
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Iâm so sorry you had to go through that. My dad has chronic back pain that isnât structural but is devastating none the less. So glad yours has been helped and to know that program exists.
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Iâm sorry for all that stress and hardship you went though, but glad to hear youâre finding things that work for you!
My post viral chronic illnesses are exacerbated by stress, so Iâve also been trying to do breathing exercises and suchlike. I donât consider them psychosomatic, though; for me, the exertion of laughing with friends causes PEM just as easily as crying, reading, or going for a walk. Stress is just one of my many triggers, unfortunately~
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I hear that, and I wanted to be really clear that I donât think my situation applies to all people with long covid or anything else because I donât want to dismiss anyone elseâs real lived knowledge. PEM is hell and I am so sorry youâre living with it. I was so hopeful weâd get real change and knowledge for post-viral illnesses after covid but it just seems like the interest and funding in solving them is slipping away.
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Yeah⌠Iâd hoped that too, but unfortunately it does seem like interest and money is disappearing again (despite people still getting sick).
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Oh yeah, the amount of even older people who will happily give away their data to various shopping apps, reward schemes, etc. just blows my mind. I shudder every single time I go to a shop and they try to persuade me to give them my data.
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Regarding the conversation above about post-viral illnesses⌠I can relate. I got sick (not COVID) and I get very tired very easily ever since. Itâs hard to get anyone to take it seriously. It doesnât even seem to be related to anything psychological, fun/relaxing activities can be exhausting for me and itâs beyond frustrating.
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Probably not the first to point this out, but I absolutely love the easter egg with when your site is open in another time
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a game i have been looking forwrad to for years was cancelled, and i have Thoughts
https://candyether.space/writing/blog/dset_retrospective.md
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