Not at all. I was making an observation based on my own experience, having been similar to that guy myself. I also made a point of saying the following:
Rephrased: this guy might have gotten dealt a lousy hand in life, but he has no right to take it out on everybody else.
On comments sections, and why I no longer feel the need to add them to my websites:
The Weekly Wrap Up is posted! Links this week include a story about the programmer who installed DOOM on a European satellite, an archive of space logos and an interview with an archaeochemist about the science of smell and how it helps us understand ancient cultures. I show off my latest cross stitch project, talk about going to the movies and Iām getting a kitty visitor again. Plus, as usual, I listened to, read and watched things.
Seeing cute cross stitch projects always reminds me that this is a hobby I really need to get into! Also, if we ever launch another Voyager probe into deep space, I hope we put DOOM on it.
I feel like Social Mediaās UX took away the magic that made it easier for me to make internet friends. The willingness to reach out to users off-platform. So I whined about it a little in longform.
Doom and Hawkwind. Get some space rock out there.
Iām privileged enough to still enjoy sending and receiving emails, as I havenāt run into the deeply unfortunate trouble youāve run into,
But I really enjoyed this post and have a lot of similar feelings.
I used to see comment boxes as a sort of, āwell if I have a blog, I must include one!ā-type thing.
Nahhh, tbh. Nahā¦
I feel way better not forcing myself to have one.
Once again, lovely post.
Yeah, itās highly improbable that I would have met my wife on parasocial media if it existed in its current form back in 2000.
I agree, but for different reasons. Iām not too worried about harassment, so itās more a matter of principle. The principle being, āI paid for this soapbox for my own use, not yours.ā Admittedly, itās a rather selfish and individualist sentiment.
Thanks, Iām glad you enjoyed it! I do miss corresponding with normal, non-unhinged visitors via email, but I never want to experience anything like that again. It was terrifying. Itās also the reason why I no longer post photos of myself anywhere online. Iām about 99% sure the asshole used my utterly innocuous author bio photo to create deepfakes. 
I donāt think itās selfish at all. Your website, your rules. Contrary to what I might have believed at one point in time, no web administrator owes their visitors any particular feature. Itās courteous to offer certain features, but no visitor should ever feel entitled to them. Like, it would be courteous of me to offer my houseguests expensive, fancy-ass toilet paper, and Iād be well within my rights to ask them to leave if they got uppity with me for only providing basic 2-ply.
alas! this is entirely the opposite of what i was trying to communicate. i apologize for being unclear; communication is not my strong suit. i will try to rephrase and explain more clearly.
given that you do not describe your toxic coworker as being particularly sexist or targeting anyone more than anyone else, your framing of your female coworkers as āvictimsā and yourself as not-that seems to be entirely due to sexism. this is unfair to them and it is also unfair to you, because you are in this situation with them, not apart from them. if they are victims, so are you. if you feel a sense of responsibility to step up and do something on their behalf, it logically follows that you should also feel a sense of responsibility to step up and do something on your own behalf. you and your colleagues are in the same situation and experiencing the same behaviors! behavior which is unacceptable towards women in the workplace is also unacceptable towards men in the workplace. thinking of men as uniquely resilient and immune to harm because of their gender and women as uniquely weak and susceptible to harm because of their gender is sexist. in this case, it seems to me that sexism is preventing you from considering your colleagues as allies with whom you are sharing a struggle!
just because you are currently dealing with the situation individually does not mean you have to. you and your colleagues could collaborate on potential solutions to the problem that you are all facing together, and in fact i think that you should! abuse of all kinds, including workplace abuse (which this is), thrives on isolation, and worker exploitation thrives where people think of themselves as individuals rather then members of a class with common cause.
i think it is important to distinguish between things which you have to do and things which you feel you have to do; in this case, you absolutely do not have to deal with this alone, because you are not alone. that is what i was trying to communicate (poorly, evidently!) ! i do not imagine it is easy or pleasant to navigate dealing with workplace harassment or initiate collective organizing in a non-unionized workplace with coworkers you donāt especially like, nor do i think there is a guaranteed solution to the problem, mind; just because a hostile work environment exists doesnāt mean itās legally actionable - even if itās legally actionable doesnāt mean your bosses care to do anything - etc. but regardless of the particulars, it is nevertheless possible to communicate and collaborate with your coworkers to improve your collective work experience. you could, for example, tell your coworkers that you think the way they interact with your toxic colleague is making things worse; you already know they arenāt being nice to him because they like him or his behavior, because they told you so.
i hope that is more clear!
Thank you 
I am gonna sit with this for a bit and then send you an email or whatever form of DM you prefer if thatās alright. So as not to derail this thread and embarrass myself further lol
sure! email is fine. iām not very prompt with checking/responding, though, due to aforementioned communication unskills! 
Momentarily broke my hiatus to post this:
The fewer people I speak to at once, and the fewer people listening to me at once, the easier it is for my mind to juggle and balance all conversational participants, all audience members, and as many audience interpretations as I can.
Ding ding ding. This was really beautiful and thought-out. Itās also helpful for me to understand how grossly metricated Discord is as someone old enough to be chronically online and not on Discord.
I love this so much! You may think itās just a short, throwaway post, but seeing people share their excitement for things like this really makes my day. Itās a big reason why I like reading @capjamesgās blog: they post beautiful reflections of things they see in daily life.
That fog is impressive and so close! It looks both spooky and cosy at the same time. I think you did great with your camera. I used to have a Nikon Coolpix. I canāt remember the version now but it was great just being able to point and shoot (and Iām no photographer).
Iām glad to hear you are taking care of yourself. Creative projects are all well and good but rest is just as important. Cooking and family time sounds lovely 
Thanks for sharing. I loved this wrap up: so many cool finds to investigate. Iām particularly interested in checking out Letters from an American and Lucyās Lens.
The book reflections are great. I donāt enjoy horror at all, but my wife does and a cosy horror sounds perfect.
That cross stitch is so cute 
Thank you so much!! 
Right?! Like, the second I, in art-servers and channels, started thinking āaw man!! This other personās art got more reaction emojis than mineā¦ā
I had realized: āoh no. Iām in the engagement metrics torment nexus again 
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Thank you so much! I couldnāt help but share, and I always love paying attention to the weather and changes around me. Itās something I think a lot of us tend to forget to pay attention to in our busy world. Sometimes I find it comforting when it feels like everything is going wrongāthat the sky and trees around us will continue, even if we manage to screw things up somewhere along the way.
If you saw me post this to the wrong thread and only notice an hour later, uh
no you didnāt shut up
anyways hereās a post <3